Well would you look at that, its November, two months left to the end of this year… Time really is flying isn’t it?
While having dinner at a friend’s house recently, one of the conversations that came up was one we may all be familiar with… of a friend who happened to leave the country for studies and unfortunately ended up getting involved with drugs, and had to drop out. Fortunately the person upon returning was able to get back on his feet and turn his life around.
However, what inspired this post was a comment my friend happened to make…
“Yeah well he wasted 5 years of his life”
But did he really?
Obviously in comparison to his friends, he would be considered to be ‘behind in life’. I personally however do not believe there’s anything like having ‘wasted’ time in your life. Let me explain why:
Where you are in this given moment, is exactly where you’re supposed to be in order to make a difference in this world’ – Me
I started saying this phrase when some of my mum’s friends would question why I was going into university after their children, yet we started school together. The comparison used to really weigh in on me, and I began feeling slightly embarrassed.
‘Have I let down my parents?’
‘Will I never be able to make something out of myself because I’m behind?’
‘Oh no, now they’ll get ahead with life and I’ll be left behind’
These are just some of the questions that would instantly flow through my mind at the time, and honestly they are quite depressing.
However, two years later, I am appreciative of where I am and how much I have matured. I would definitely not be the same person had I rushed into university. All the people I’ve met and activities I have participated have shaped me into who I am today. In fact, this blog is as a result of me going to University when I did, I’d never have gathered the courage to share my thoughts with you if otherwise.
Same goes for the guy in the story, for him to get to where he is today, he had to go through what he did for those 5 years which people claim he wasted. They weren’t a waste as they taught him valuable lessons that hopefully could be a driving factor to his influence on the world. Those 5 years steered him in the direction he is destined to be going. He had to lose himself first to find his calling.
The fact that we each have different paths and callings is the reason I do not believe in the phrase ‘You’re losing time’. The main reason we are so used to this is because we enjoy comparing our life to that of the person next to us; very illogical seeing as we are different in almost every aspect. Different purposes, different goals.
Next time you think that you’re losing time by postponing a major event in your life such as making the decision to go into University, Start a business or even get married, stop and ask yourself:
- Who am I comparing myself to?
- Why do I feel pressured to do this?
- Am I ready to do this?
I believe that asking yourself this will help you realise that this life you’re living is your own, and no one should rush or pressure you to doing things that you do not feel prepared to do. There is a reason for everything including the fact that you don’t feel ready. Possibly that’s not the path you should be following or it isn’t the right time for you.
Hesitation is also an answer
Recently, Ariana Grande released a song that as lyrics I believe resonate with what I’m trying to say.
The song is called ‘thank u, next‘
‘I got so much love, got so much patience…
I’ve learnt from my pain, I’ve turned out amazing’
Have a listen to it 🙂