Chapter 3: The Beauty of Change

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I personally have not been in the right frame of mind to release the post I had scheduled for this week, and so, I decided to start off with the first guest post by my good friend Laura.

” I’m sitting in the living room late at 2am with a bottle of wine contemplating my life these past few months. I don’t mean to jinx it, but it has been good. I am so blessed to have friends, opportunities, good health, love, joy and a myriad of positive vibes. And then, suddenly it hits me that things are about to change, and I can’t help but feel a sudden rush of unease.

I guess that’s what anxiety does to you. You attach yourself to things, places and people that feel like home, to places that feel like peace, and you wouldn’t have it any other way. And when something slightly changes, everything does. It’s a perfect illustration of the butterfly effect. The flutter of wings causes a hurricane inside your body.

Change is terrifying. I, for one, have serious attachment issues. To my workplace, my school, my friends, family… down to the minute things that many would consider trivial. I love certainty and I take solace in consistency. Anything contrary to this distorts my sense of security.

But do you know what comes out of change? Bigger, better things. Greater than you’ve ever imagined. The key is to trust in the process and believe with all your being that God, the universe, or whichever power you believe in is panning out things for you.

I’ve recently been learning to embrace the beauty of vulnerability, and a professor by the name Brene Brown has been a huge part of this journey. Because contrary to its negative connotation, vulnerability is courage. And now when I think about it, accepting change is a major part of vulnerability. We are our biggest critics, and that’s partly why we take comfort in the known rather than the unknown.

I think back to who I was a year ago, and I can’t recognize that girl. I was timid and scared of going out of my comfort zone. I was always thinking about what people would say or think about me, and that drove most of my decisions. I was comfortable with my life as it was, and I think that’s one of the most dangerous things you can ever do to yourself. Accepting change is putting yourself out there knowing that the outcome could be positive or negative, but still doing it anyway. It’s doing things even when you’re scared, and embracing that adrenaline rush that comes with putting yourself out there.

I’m a lover of quotes and words, and so for me, picking up life lessons from books and movies is like a hobby. So here’s something that I picked up from Mark Manson’s The Subtle Art Of Not Giving A Fuck: Here’s something that’s weird but true. We don’t actually know what a positive or negative experience is. Some of the most difficult and stressful moments of our lives also end up being the most formative and motivating. Some of the most gratifying experiences of our lives end up being the most distracting and demotivating. Don’t trust your conception of positive/negative experiences. All that we know for certain is what hurts in the moment and what doesn’t, and that’s not worth much.

To be open to change is to accept that you don’t know what could come out of it, and to live with that thought and welcome it in your mind. I think it’s a beautiful concept. No matter how hard we try, we will never be fully in control of what happens to us, and while that’s a hard pill to swallow, it really is the beauty of life. The fact that you wake up every day with a new experience to live, that’s wonderful.

Let me leave you with a quote that I picked up from a series called Locked Up that I can’t seem to get over. ‘A liquid is a state of a material without a particular form. It changes with ease and moulds to its container. The human body is 70% water.’ “


This is Laura Ayienga, I’ve known her for more than 12 years now. She is a passionate writer and uses her passion to constantly better herself each day.


3 thoughts on “Chapter 3: The Beauty of Change”

  1. This piece is a breath of fresh air especially now, when things are so confusing and alien💐I love it.

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