The first thing to understand is that love is an action, not a feeling. And to love yourself should come hand in hand with tangible actions and not just pretty words. And because of this, true self love is difficult. It requires active dedication everyday, working towards the most beneficial long term goals. In order to do this, we all have to create a relationship with ourselves based on growth and accountability. The most important relationship I will ever have is with myself. And that is true for everyone. The body I reside in will be the most important thing I will ever have to take care of. The mind through which I process life is the most essential component I need to safeguard. Fundamentally, we all know this and we act according to what we feel will bring the most advantage to us. No one ever purposefully sets out…

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Judgmental tendencies


Always be aware when you are being judgmental. Sometimes it comes inadvertently. You may not realize it, but the person you’re inadvertently judging may feel it. Most may choose not to tell you. As much as possible, try not to criticize people of their opinions and life choices. Not everyone will agree with you but if you feel like you need to correct someone, do it passionately without the judgemental tone.

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Taking 2018 head on!

Happy New Year !

I hope everyone started off the year on a good tone.

I for one, spent my New Year’s day running on two hours of sleep at a family gathering in shags. I barely thought I’d make it because; 1) we were the first to arrive, 2) it was extremely hot and 3) my favourite cousins decided they’ll make an appearance three hours late . I however managed to survive and much to my surprise, had to be forced to go home :).  It was actually fun.

A new year definitely comes with promises made to self about how we’re ready to change certain ‘negative’ aspects in our life, maybe to eat healthier, go to the gym, drink less alcohol, save money… and so much more.

Year in year out however, the trend appears to be that most people find themselves writing the same resolutions and making promises that this would be their year, the year that they change; but two weeks or two months down the line they’re back to their same old habits.

Reflecting on my past year resolutions, I managed to come up with a few reasons as to why I wasn’t able to achieve what I wanted to. (This may not be true for everyone though)

  1. You’re setting unrealistic goals

I’m not saying its impossible for one to achieve what they set out to do. Nothing is impossible if you control your mindset. This just means you’re giving yourself a great task to achieve without considering the possible and definite obstacles that you will face.

In marketing we’re told that when a company is setting their company goal, it needs to be SMART;


What exactly do you want to achieve?


Write it down everywhere. Make sure you remind yourself of it daily when you wake up  and when you go to sleep, reflect on your day and judge if the activities of your day were in line with your resolution of the year.


Don’t make resolutions far beyond your reach. Think of yourself as an investment project, majority take time to give the returns you want, but you only invest in those you believe in right?


Everyone is different, make resolutions that will benefit you and where you are in life


Who said a new years resolution is restricted to a time period of one year?  Did you know you can actually make one resolution that will last your entire life time? If you believe a resolution is a lifestyle change then this will make sense to you.

Some changes will definitely require more than a year to take full effect in your life so don’t limit yourself to just one year.. again remember the investment project reference?


2. You’re not holding yourself accountable. 

It is your responsibility to track your progress. Reward yourself when you manage to stay on track/ achieve something but be prepared for moments of failure. When this happens, pick yourself up and start again. Never be afraid to begin over. The most important thing is you start afresh with a new mindset using your failures as learning lessons.


3. You’re comparing yourself

As human beings this may be one of our biggest shortcomings. We tend to believe that we should be at the same level as our peers when this is not the case at all.

Just this year, you may find that your friends will move far ahead in their lives or that you yourself will be the one to move further on. That’s normal. The most important thing to remember is that we should help build one another.

I believe that the comparison is a cause of demotivation and eventually failure. Let me expound.. we allow ourselves to be in awe at how far ahead our friends are that we forget to focus on our own journey.

Think about life this way; we all have one destination but our paths to it are very different, yes they may cross at some point but they aren’t meant to go the same way. 

This means that in as much as the destination is the same, I can’t decide to use my friend’s path. There are obstacles along it that only they can overcome. I need to follow my own path and face my unique obstacles that will shape me into the person  I am destined to be.


4. You’re being too loud.

Truth is not everyone wants to see you succeed and not everyone will be happy for you when you actually do. This is means that some people will go out of their way to see you or even make you fail. Sometimes I believe we only have ourselves to blame for that.

Silence is golden. – Not everyone deserves/ needs to know what you plan on doing. Work in silence and let the results speak for themselves.

Its okay to share your dreams with a few people, maybe family or a close friend or a mentor. Just be sure that these people have your best interest at heart and you have almost similar life goals.

Take time to reflect on why you were unable to achieve the goals you set for yourself, build a new strategy and then work towards achieving the goals 🙂

Remember that;


Wishing you all a prosperous New Year :). Stay safe and seize all opportunities presented to you.



The world is yours for the taking 🙂




Hello journey buddies,

so a few of you asked me to give tips on how to lose excess weight. I really had to psyche myself to write this because everyone is different, what worked for me may not work for you. I therefore decided to make this on lessons I’ve learnt along the way.

However, I’d like to remind you all that I am no professional, I am still on my journey and everything I write down is based on personal experience. 🙂 .

Anyway, here goes…


This simply means for you to be able to change yourself, you first need to accept where and who you are. Love your body immensely mainly because it is the only one you’ll get. (unless you have money for surgery :D)

I personally found it hard to accept myself at first. This was because how I imagined my appearance to be, was not what it was in reality. It took time, a lot of time, but I eventually learned to accept myself.


I know of a few people who are terrified of going to the gym because they feel intimidated. In all honesty, you don’t need to start your weight loss journey in the gym. I actually believe it would be better to start a simple daily exercise routine on your own before you hit the gym. Hopefully this may help build your confidence in working out. YouTube has a lot of free workout videos. 10 -20 minutes of simple exercises daily can be a good start. With time, you can adjust the routine and make it more tough. You can start by searching for Just Gym It, a channel hosted by two Kenyans if you need any more motivation to start. (For real though, go watch their videos!!!!)


The hardest part about weight loss is nutrition. You may push yourself through several reps and sets of exercises at the gym then completely undo all the work you’ve put in with the wrong nutrition.

It’s good to know that in order to lose weight a calorie deficit is required. (Calories consumed< Calories expended). However, watching what you eat does not mean you put yourself on a really restrictive diet. You can still have sweet treats as long as you eat  them in moderation.

Remember its your own journey, take time to experiment with different foods and observe the effect they have on you and how they make you feel. I would advise one to keep a journal of foods eaten during the journey just so you have records of what works best for your body.

Also, drink lots of water!!


‘Surround yourself with people who provide you with love and support and remember to give back as much as you can in return’- Karen Kain

I highly doubt I’d have made it this far without my family and friends. They have been my constant support throughout my journey. They kept me going when I felt like giving up and for that I am forever grateful to them. ❤ (I’ll post a few pictures of them because they are part of this journey :))

Choose your support wisely. Not everyone needs to know what you’re doing. A few friends and family is enough; just ensure that they have your best interest at heart and are genuine.

Special shout out to my parents who are always there for me! I feel that unconditional love.


This probably should have been my first point. You need to set goals for yourself and make them both reasonable and fun.

Personally what I do is: I set the main goal, break that down into monthly goals and further into weekly goals. This does help keep me motivated. I also take progress pictures which help my stay disciplined.

I absolutely LOVE treating myself when I achieve my goals, (and even if I don’t..because life is too short not to treat yourself) 

Contrary to what you may believe, your treats do not have to be in form of food, I used to do that last year but ended up overindulging. Instead I treat myself to red lipstick, gym wear (I usually save up for this though) and other inedible items, because they last longer.


Red lipstick just makes you look like you’ve dressed up ! I LOVE IT and the dog filter will forever be the best !

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I bought this Nike Sports bra when it was on sale but I still had to spend quite a bit on it. No regrets though !!


Yes you feel like you need to workout every single day to achieve your goal body. God rested after creating the earth, who are you not to deserve a break?

I cannot emphasise this point enough. You need to rest from working out, the worst thing you can do to yourself is push way past your limit, get a burn out and completely lose motivation. Choose a day, any day you’d like, I love Sunday being my rest day because I get to plan for the following week as well as dress up and look cute.

Personally, and most of my friends probably dislike me for this , is that even on days that aren’t my rest day, I will take as many naps as possible if I’m not busy. I take any opportunity I get to reenergize myself, plus sleep is also my welcome respite from this cruel world.



My Brothers ! P.S/ how bomb is the dress I wore to my brother’s graduation?


Feel free to let me know if this helps in any way, or even just contact me if you just want to talk 🙂







“I really need to do something about my weight.”  

I said those words to myself exactly one year ago after gaining an impressive 10,000 grams in a month. (That’s 10 kg mind you). None of my clothes were fitting properly. I mean I remember wearing my favourite grey/blue jeans for a play at the Alliance Français early July 2016 and halfway through the play I had to unbutton the jeans because I was very uncomfortable. In addition to this, I also had a very severe pain in my left foot that made it hard to walk. At first I didn’t really think much of it, but I later learnt that it was all the extra weight that was causing that pain. My body wasn’t coping well at all.


Brighton Beach June 2016

Naturally, my mum was against the idea of me joining a gym alone claiming I was ‘too young’. She wanted me to workout from home but I know myself, there was no way I was going to get anything done. I needed someone to push me to do any exercise. Those who know me know I preferred doing activities that do not require me to exert myself. After a countless number of arguments (and getting my dad on my side..) she finally agreed but on her conditions: I was to train with the trainer she picked out for me, fair enough right?

7th July

This is always going to be my New Year. The day I have chosen to be setting for myself long term goals as I reflect on how far I’ve come in the last 365 days.

On this day in 2016, I decided to work on myself for myself.

One Year later I’m in love with how far I’ve come and the progress I’ve made. I’m not yet where I’d like to be but I’m on my way there.

I’ve been asked a countless number of times to do something like this; share my journey with others, but I never had the courage to do so. That changed recently, I’ve finally decided to take the risk, step out of my comfort zone and do just that.

One year down and I’m still learning. Learning what to eat and when, how much to eat and motivating myself to keep going after falling off the wagon.

More to come on this..

One year down, my entire life to go.

Everything I write is from personal experience and what I’ve learnt over time,

Make the rest of your life the best of your life.’ (Eric Thomas)


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Little Black dress I wore to a party June 2017.